{"id":188,"date":"2020-02-21T09:13:26","date_gmt":"2020-02-21T09:13:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/?p=188"},"modified":"2020-02-21T09:13:26","modified_gmt":"2020-02-21T09:13:26","slug":"arkadas-secimi-ve-etkileri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/2020\/02\/21\/arkadas-secimi-ve-etkileri\/","title":{"rendered":"Arkada\u015f Se\u00e7imi Ve Etkileri"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Her Seviyede, Arkada\u015flara Dikkat!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

     \u0130yi arkada\u015f, insan\u0131 hayatta nerelere g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr, k\u00f6t\u00fc arkada\u015f nerelere? \u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ilk gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131nda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0131nal\u0131z\u00e2de Ali \u00c7elebi, \u201c\u0130nsan huy h\u0131rs\u0131z\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d diyor ve bunun bilhassa \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131nda daha ileri derecede oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Derslerinde \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm vard\u0131. Lise ikide ne olduysa oldu, birinci devrede yedi zay\u0131f getirdi. Bu, onun i\u00e7in inan\u0131l\u0131r gibi bir \u015fey de\u011fildi. Ara\u015ft\u0131rma sonunda anla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131 ki, baz\u0131 yeni arkada\u015flar edinmi\u015f, onlara uymak onu bu h\u00e2le getirmi\u015f. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 i\u00e7in gerekli ilgi g\u00f6sterildi. O da gayret etti. \u0130kinci d\u00f6nem zay\u0131f say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ikiye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrd\u00fc, onlar\u0131 da b\u00fct\u00fcnlemede verip ge\u00e7ti. Daha sonra kendisi anlat\u0131yor: \u201cYedi tane zay\u0131f geldi\u011finde bir ara okulu b\u0131rakmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm, fakat kendime yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131ramad\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arkada\u015f kurban\u0131 oldu\u011fu o g\u00fcnlerin arkas\u0131ndan bir daha \u00f6yle bir h\u00e2le d\u00fc\u015fmedi\u011fi gibi, \u00f6\u011frencilik hayat\u0131ndan sonra \u00e7ok ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir \u00f6\u011fretmen ve y\u00f6netici olarak \u00f6nemli g\u00f6revlerde bulundu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir dershaneye birinci olarak giren bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun, kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 arkada\u015f \u00e7evresi i\u00e7inde daha sonra s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n\u0131 zor ge\u00e7er duruma d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc biliyorum. Hepiniz de benzeri \u00f6rnekleri hemen hat\u0131rlayacaks\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu da olumlu bir \u00f6rnek:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir ilkokulun d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131nda, \u00f6\u011fretmen s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131 k\u00fcmelere ay\u0131r\u0131r. S\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n en iyi \u00f6\u011frencisi, bulundu\u011fu k\u00fcmeye ba\u015fkan se\u00e7ilir. Bu \u00f6\u011frenci, bir yandan kendisi ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken di\u011fer yandan da arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya te\u015fvik eder. O k\u00fcme, s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n en \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan k\u00fcmesi olur ve m\u00fcfetti\u015f geldi\u011finde, \u00f6\u011fretmen, ders anlatmak i\u00e7in tahtaya onlar\u0131 kald\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daha sonra \u00f6\u011frencisini o k\u00fcmeden alan \u00f6\u011fretmen,  onu s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n en tembel k\u00fcmesinin ba\u015f\u0131na ba\u015fkan olarak koyar. Bir s\u00fcre sonra s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n en \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan k\u00fcmesi o k\u00fcme olur. \u0130kinci d\u00f6nemde m\u00fcfetti\u015f geldi\u011finde \u00f6\u011fretmen bu defa onlar\u0131 tahtaya kald\u0131r\u0131r. Di\u011fer k\u00fcme ise, \u00f6nceki performans\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmekle birlikte yine \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan bir k\u00fcmedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi, \u201c\u0130yi arkada\u015f, g\u00fczel koku satan kimse gibidir. Sana koku s\u00fcrmese de, yan\u0131nda bulundu\u011fun s\u00fcrece g\u00fczel kokusundan faydalan\u0131rs\u0131n.\u201c (Had\u00ees-i \u015ferif)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arkada\u015f se\u00e7iminde \u015fu \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcd\u00fcr:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSizinle beraber e\u011flenmek i\u00e7in i\u015fini b\u0131rakanlardan ziyade,  sizinle beraber \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in e\u011flencesini b\u0131rakan insan \u00e7ok daha g\u00fcvenilir ki\u015fidir.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arkada\u015f \u00e7ok \u015fey kazand\u0131r\u0131r, \u00e7ok \u015fey kaybettirir. K\u0131r at\u0131n yan\u0131nda duran, ya huyundan, ya t\u00fcy\u00fcnden.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fu arkada\u015flar\u0131ndan kopuk bir d\u00fcnyada ya\u015fatmaya kalk\u0131\u015fmamal\u0131; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bunun, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruhi durumu \u00fczerinde telafisi \u00e7ok zor etkileri olur. Fakat bu kadar \u00f6nemli olan arkada\u015f \u00e7evresi de, tamamen \u00e7ocu\u011fun inisiyatifine b\u0131rak\u0131lmamal\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc eksik hayat tecr\u00fcbeleriyle onlar\u0131n, b\u00fcy\u00fcklerinin yard\u0131m\u0131na ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 var. Aile, \u00e7ocu\u011funun arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 biraz olsun tan\u0131mal\u0131. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fkan ve terbiyeli \u00e7ocuk ve gen\u00e7lerle arkada\u015fl\u0131k kurabilmeleri i\u00e7in ortamlar haz\u0131rlay\u0131p yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmal\u0131; \u00f6yle arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 desteklemeli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hatta aileler kendi aralar\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ferek, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n birlikte iyi ve g\u00fczel \u015feyler yapmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in, ilgi \u00e7ekici \u00e7e\u015fitli g\u00fczel ortamlar olu\u015fturmal\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her \u00e7ocuk, kurulmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimiz iyilikler, g\u00fczellikler d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n son derece de\u011ferli birer unsurudur.  Hem unutmayal\u0131m ki, her \u00e7ocu\u011fun yeti\u015fmesinde, di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n rol\u00fc de az de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hepsinden \u00f6nemlisi; \u00e7ocuk, arkada\u015f olaca\u011f\u0131 ki\u015filerde iyi \u00f6zellikler aramay\u0131, k\u00f6t\u00fc arkada\u015flardan uzak durmay\u0131; yani arkada\u015f se\u00e7meyi \u00f6\u011frenmeli, bunu yapabilmelidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bunu yapabilen \u00e7ocuklar, hayatlar\u0131 boyunca \u00e7ok faydas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dosdo\u011fru Arkada\u015f<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tilki ile y\u0131lan arkada\u015f olur ve birlikte yolculu\u011fa \u00e7\u0131karlar. Bir \u0131rma\u011f\u0131n kenar\u0131na geldiklerinde, y\u0131lan tilkiye:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Tilki karde\u015f, ben y\u00fczme bilmem. Beni s\u0131rt\u0131na al da, kar\u015f\u0131 k\u0131y\u0131ya birlikte ge\u00e7elim, der.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tilki, arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n teklifini kabul eder. Y\u0131lan, tilkinin beline sar\u0131l\u0131r, o da \u0131rma\u011fa girip y\u00fczmeye ba\u015flar. Kar\u015f\u0131 k\u0131y\u0131ya vard\u0131klar\u0131nda y\u0131lan:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Tilki karde\u015f, ben seni sokaca\u011f\u0131m, deyiverir.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Neye u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131ran tilki:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Y\u0131lan karde\u015f, biz seninle arkada\u015f de\u011fil miyiz? Bak ben sana bunca iyilik ettim. Seni s\u0131rt\u0131ma almasam, \u0131rma\u011f\u0131 ge\u00e7emezdin, diye ne kadar dil d\u00f6kmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131ysa da y\u0131lan hi\u00e7 oral\u0131 olmaz ve:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Bu benim huyum. Sokmak benim yap\u0131mda var, der.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bunun \u00fczerine tilki bir an durur, sonra y\u0131lana:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Peki y\u0131lan karde\u015f, der, sok, ne yapal\u0131m. Bu benim kaderimmi\u015f. Yaln\u0131z, y\u00fcz\u00fcme bir defac\u0131k bak ki, \u00f6lmeden \u00f6nce o g\u00fczel g\u00f6zlerini son bir defa g\u00f6reyim.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu s\u00f6zlere aldanan y\u0131lan, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 uzatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 anda, tetikte duran tilki derhal at\u0131l\u0131p ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kap\u0131verir. Sonra da, \u00f6len y\u0131lan\u0131 \u0131rma\u011f\u0131n kenar\u0131nda, kumlar\u0131n \u00fczerine boylu boyunca uzat\u0131r ve kendi hilesine kurban giden arkada\u015f\u0131na \u015f\u00f6yle der:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Yoook y\u0131lan karde\u015f! Ben \u00f6yle e\u011fri b\u00fc\u011fr\u00fc arkada\u015f istemem! Benimle arkada\u015f olacaksan, b\u00f6yle dosdo\u011fru olacaks\u0131n!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se\u00e7ece\u011fimiz arkada\u015f, yaln\u0131z bug\u00fcnlerimizi de\u011fil, b\u00fct\u00fcn istikbalimizi de \u00e7ok yak\u0131ndan ilgilendiriyor\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ahmet Mara\u015fl\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Her Seviyede, Arkada\u015flara Dikkat!      \u0130yi arkada\u015f, insan\u0131 hayatta nerelere g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr, k\u00f6t\u00fc arkada\u015f nerelere? \u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-188","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/188","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=188"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/188\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":189,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/188\/revisions\/189"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=188"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=188"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.selamli.com\/site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=188"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}